How to Make Your Marriage Last
Since my wedding anniversary was this month, I’ve been thinking about marriage and just what it takes to go the distance. My husband and I married 31 years ago on a hot, sunny July morning with all our family and friends around us.
We have had our fair share of joys and sorrows through those 31 years, just like everyone else but we’ve endured and are in a pretty good spot in our lives. It seems nowadays that people jump into relationships too quickly and give up too easily when things get difficult.
Here are some things I’ve learned over the years:
- You have to let go of your pet peeves. When you let little things such as folding towels a certain way or leaving cupboard doors open blow into full-fledged fights, you spend too much valuable time arguing. Remember, life is short and you never know what may happen tomorrow.
- You have to be truthful with each other. I’m not talking about the white lies you tell to save someone from being embarrassed about their clothes or speech. I’m talking about if you ran into your old boyfriend/girlfriend and had lunch, you should mention it to your mate. Better that it comes out casually than if it is found out later and it looks like you tried to keep it a secret.
- You have to be considerate of each other’s feelings. Although you may feel it’s silly to be afraid of the dark, your mate does not and if you want them to be considerate of your fear of spiders then you better leave that nightlight on 🙂
- You have to learn to forgive. Everyone makes mistakes and if you truly love someone you will be willing to give them another chance. Don’t worry, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. But neither mate should take advantage of this action or it will snowball into a larger problem.
So, let’s hear it for those who haven’t given up! Romance and marriage take work but are sooooo worth the effort.
How long have you been married?